Frequently Asked Questions

Parenting and Alcohol

Paul Dillon @ Drug and Alcohol Research and Training Australia (DARTA) is an excellent resource for all things drug, alcohol and kids and where I have sourced my data from.

On the contrary, research shows that allowing teens to drink at home puts them more at risk of drinking irresponsibly.

Link to data

  1. Drive your kids to and from their destination.  It is illegal for Uber to take bookings from under 18 year olds or to drive under 18 year olds without an accompanying adult.
  2. be a positive role model – look at how you socialise with alcohol and talk about it 

  3. promote positive norms - not everyone drinks and most adults drink responsibly 

  4. create age-appropriate rules and consequences - modify as they get older but don't be influenced by others – stick to your guns! 
  5. If you are a two parent family ensure both parents are 'on the same page' – don't allow your teen to set you up against each other – "Don't ask me or go to them, come to us" 
  6. if things get out of hand, seek professional help nice
    and early – certain behaviour is not normal and needs to be addressed 

Don't underestimate your influence - strategies include:

  1. Link alcohol with food whenever possible  
  2. Provide food and non-alcoholic beverages for guests
  3. You're not going drinking, you're having a drink with a meal
  4. Limit your alcohol - not about stopping drinking – children learn from observing responsible drinking
  5. Decline the offer of alcohol occasionally
  6. Organise alcohol-free events for friends/family
  7. Demonstrate 'good behaviour' before drinking
  8. Eat a 'fistful of food' before you go out
  9. Make sure your first drink is water – 'It's water time'
  10. Don't portray alcohol as a way to deal with stress, e.g., "I've had a bad day, I need a drink!" – use healthier ways e.g., exercise, listening to music, etc

Connection over control every time!!!!

Keep connected ... 

Keeping 'connected' is important but can be difficult - if you say 'no' all the time - going to be 'butting heads' 

Always be on the lookout for opportunities to say 'yes' 

During their early teens parents move from a 'managing' role to a 'consulting' one 

Important to have practical strategies to maintain communication and keep you connected 

  • Use the car
  • Talk late at night, very late!
  • Taking them to a restaurant for dinner
  • Use of indirect communication – notes, emails, texts 

The final word ...

Tell your children they're great, all the time!

  • There is always something positive you can find to say about your child - find it and say it!

Really listen to your child and 'connect'

  • When did you last 'connect' with your child? Try to find the time at least once a week for a few minutes to really talk and listen to your child it'll be worth it in so many ways!

Three simple golden rules ...

  1. Know where your child is
  2. Know who they're with
  3. Know when they'll be home

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