#116 Bored AF

Let’s get real about boredom, especially when you’re taking a break from alcohol.In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking why “I’m bored” can feel shamey, why stillness can spike dread for trauma survivors and neurodivergent brains, and how comparison pours petrol on the fire. We talk Peter Levine, Internal Family Systems, Kristin Neff, Tara Brach, and Brene Brown, but keep it super practical for real life. If “busy” has been your personality, this one’s a deep exhale and a warm reminder that you’re not broken; you’re human.

What we cover:

• The sneaky origins of boredom shame from childhood and why it sticks.
• Boredom ≠ lack of stimulation for trauma survivors and ND folks, it’s the threat of being with ourselves.
• The “second arrow” of self-judgment and how it multiplies pain.
• Why our nervous system sometimes tries to discharge stored stress in the quiet. How neurodivergent masking leads to crash cycles, comparison, and coping.
• Practical reframes: becoming the observer, stopping the second arrow, and meeting real needs. Radical acceptance and the beauty of a “nice little life.”
• Small, doable ways to build capacity for stillness without reaching for a drink.

Listen if: You’re alcohol-free or AF-curious, you identify as “always busy,” or you’re tired of comparing your Tuesday to someone else’s highlight reel.

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