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Hello everybody, and welcome to this incredibly strange time of year. It's a very like my kids have just finished school first time they finished earlier than the week before Christmas, because they're going into year 10 and year 12, and they have this kind of step up thing, and it means that they my oldest just get gets nearly two months off over summer, and my youngest has been off since the beginning of this week. So crazy, wow, which has meant that I've had the opportunity to go, I'm actually going to create something for you guys, something free that I hope will be helpful, because I'm celebrating my six year anniversary, and I wanted to kind of give back and share and give you something as well, and talk about as well. I'm planning to do a January alcohol experiment, which is the first time I've ever done one myself. I did a January Great Aussie alcohol experiment when I was working as a contractor for this naked mind. And I did the first, my first one. So I did the January alcohol experiment in 2020 and that's when I stopped drinking. I didn't realize I was going to stop drinking. I was just taking a 30 day break. That's not entirely true. I'd planned to do a year, but I wasn't sure I was going to be able to do it. But I had some big, really, big, momentous changes during that, and that really,
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really impacted my decision making,
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and changed how I thought about everything. So I moved from restriction into choice, choice, and so I really wanted to celebrate that. And there's a really lovely energy about doing a January alcohol experiment. And mine are always really small, like 25 people, and really intimate. And Aussie, Aussie based, Aussie, New Zealand friendly time zones,
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and it's just me being the coach.
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So very like one of my clients said, it's boutique, not Kmart, and I would agree, because we actually get into kind of individual issues around alcohol, things that really make it difficult for us to stop at one and so on.
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So we're planning to do that as well.
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But, yeah, I don't know about you, but I am absolutely cream cracker shattered. This has been one hell of a year. I'd love to hear how you guys have found your year, and I find this time of year in the lead up to Christmas, I think one of the things that I've been very grateful for from stopping drinking back in 2020 and you know, I'm not going to lie, covid coming for me in 2020 I was saying to my husband, covid happening, and I know it was a really devastating thing for a lot of people, and potentially it was for us as well, right? I think there's, you know, certain things happened after covid, health wise, with my family that, you know, I don't know how involved covid has been in that. But anyway, that sort of aside, but I didn't realize until covid happened, how much stress I found the entertaining socializing, having people around to our house always, you know, being on show. And I remember when that stopped, and we stopped having to go places and go into the city and do all the activities, and what a difference it made for my nervous system. And I didn't realize what pressure I was putting myself under until that happened, and it was very interesting, because that kind of coincided with stopping drinking. And I was, I was laughing with someone recently and saying, you know, one of the great things about stopping drinking for me was I learned that I was allowed to leave, you know, I gave myself permission to leave things early. I had this two hour kind of rule, and I was like, I never stay anywhere more than two hours unless I'm having like, a word of a time. Because two hours is enough for me. I've got around everyone. I've had a chat, but my social battery is beginning to wane. And usually, if I'm in a mixed group of drinkers and non drinkers, and mainly I am because I think I'm the only non drinker that I know, people are starting to get a little bit more sloppy, and the conversation is not what it was. So, yeah, so I think one of the great things I always talk about for me, for stopping drinking was, you know, sort of it was the beginning of my unmasking. And as you know, I later discovered I was a neurodivergent human being. First of all, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and then I was diagnosed with autism after my children were both diagnosed, so it's been a gradual unmasking. And I thank stopping drinking, and I thank the alcohol experiment for beginning that process for me, because it is. Rediscovery of self, coming back home to self, home to source. And you know, I think the difference between a lot of what I do is we know it's not about fixing ourselves. Yeah, it's not about fixing ourselves. It's not about changing ourselves. It's about coming home to who we were put on this earth to really be before we created the persona that helps us to feel safe in the world. So I was just wanting to acknowledge, first of all, you know, how exhausted, over stimulated everyone is, you know, and I constantly talk about choice, being in choice, and you know, we've got, we've got choices with being in choice, right? So, you know, we can. And I always say in my work, this is not to deny the very real stress.
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And I the
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systemic cultural pressures that are on many human beings, but particularly, I think, women in midlife, female assigned at birth, humans at midlife. So when I say we have choice. That's not to discredit the experiences that we have, but what I'm saying is we can rally against where we are. We can. We can judge where we are as faulty. We can. And we can feel, you know, and that takes an willpower, that takes an energy, that takes a resist, that's a resistance, or we can, or we can be in choice around that and be like, I'm in my present moment awareness. I've lost all the parts of me that are, you know, anxious and worried and trying to control and trying to get together. I'm trying to understand and, you know, trying to fix and making sure I don't forget, and making sure I haven't remember. I'm making sure that I am, you know, that I'm not looking at that conversation that I had yesterday and kind of picking it apart and the hopes that I might have done it better, you know, all that kind of stuff when I'm not in that space, when I'm in present moment awareness, when I'm grounded, when I'm out of Busy brain, which I've now realized is a possibility. Then, you know, I'm okay, and then I can be in choice when I'm not in resistance, I can be in choice. And this is what I teach, and this is what's so different about what I teach is it's not about willpower, it's not about white knuckling, it's not about battling the wine, which it's not about any of the traditional things that we think about when we're talking about stopping an alcohol, it's not about being in fear, it's not about being in constriction. It's about opening up, leaning in, and taking the fear out of the equation so that we can be in choice with our relationship with alcohol, it's not that we have to, it's that we get to. It's not that we can't, it's that we don't want to.
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I know that one of the things I think, when I'm often speaking to clients who we've got all these applications. And I think one of the things about stopping drinking and one of the things about becoming diagnosed as autistic and ADHD person, what I found from those things has given me more confidence to advocate for my needs and to say, you know, I don't want to do that actually, or this isn't, you know, to really sort of start to put it in Vanity. I'm by no means perfect at this, but I think there's a lot of things over this period of time that we feel we don't have choice over we feel that we are in obligation and that, you know, has a really strong toll for us, because a lot of the time it's not things we necessarily would be choosing to do, but we feel like we have to. We feel like we can't possibly not, and that's exhausting. And you know, for those of us who've got neurodivergent kids, there's a lot to take into account there as well. You know, really managing everyone else's nervous system. And I think that's a particularly strong thing for women in midlife.
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And so, you know, for me,
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as I get and and I know that for some of us, like when we think back on, you know, the part of us we used to love and often we mourn, is this sort of life and soul of the party, this really confident person who was, you know, this ever ready bunny, because that's what alcohol allows us to do. It allows us to push through our nervous system. It allows us to keep going. It allows us to keep performing, regardless of the cost. And I think one of the things that I'm really grateful for in this journey has been my ability to say, I just can't do that. I'm. Afraid, even you know, because it's going to be problematic for my family. It's going to push my kids into burnout more. Going to push me into burnout more. And I think this time can get so frenetic and so much expectations. You've got to have the perfect tree, the perfect everything. And you know, we've got to be working, we've got to be going out socializing, meeting all these people. And it just is, it just seems to me, to be way too much. And for me personally, I have really cut back on all of that. Really, really cut back. And I'm really pleased I don't feel sad about it at all. But again, you know, we're all different, and we all need different things, but I think learning what our nervous system needs and being the person that we can rely on to give ourselves what we need. This is this whole part of reparenting that I talk about so much in my work. So now, look, I know again. I remember when I was drinking and I'd go on holiday, and I'd always come back thinking, God, I wish I could have another holiday where I didn't drink. So I'd come back feeling rejuvenated, and I kind of feel like this Christmas period is a bit like that. So like, I just want to say, you know, give permission. You know, of course, these times of year are very difficult for us. It's difficult for us not to drink if we if that's what we've been using as our coping mechanism to manage to push through, to override our nervous system. And as female assigned to birth humans, it is practically our DNA. In fact, it is our DNA to do that, to be giving out and to be not thinking about ourselves, because we've been conditioned to believe that's selfish and so on. And we know that our cold feels like the quickest way to switch off, the way to soften the edges, the way to allow us to keep pushing through, and it also allows us not to be with ourselves, you know, because often, a lot of the reason we drink, a lot of reason people talk, I talk to a drink, is loneliness. You know, we've lonely, or we're grieving, or we're sad, or we're frustrated and we're angry and we're dissatisfied, or we want to get away from the long, expansive spot of time, or we're absolutely exhausted from being so busy. There's so many reasons, and they're all really good as to why we drink. And we feel like alcohol allows us to escape from some of that, and allows us to keep performing these Christmas little elves that we are. And so of course, we use it because we don't know how to do it any other way, and we feel like it's the only way that it can we can do that, and it's almost like alcohol gives us permission to stop, to rest, or it gives us the energy to keep going. Either way, it's kind of, kind of out of touch with ourselves and with what's going on in our bodies, which is very normal, right? So again, just kind of coming back to where I started. It's not about, for me, this whole journey is not about strength or weakness. It's not about coming from a place that we're broken and fixing ourselves? And in fact, I think if you would, if you are coming to it from that perspective, which is often why a lot of these programs, so, you know, the programs people run a, you know, top 10 Tips for and go into battle, and it's all like, you know, do loads of exercise and just distract yourself from alcohol, whereas the work that I do is very much about let's lean into the reason why we're drinking. Let's get to the root cause. Let's understand what is the need that's not being met so that we can meet it. So it's a very different approach. And what I really love about the work that I do now, particularly because I have got my diagnosis is I am now very conscious of neuro affirming practices I work. I'm very and I'm very careful as well about, you know, I think as a society, we have a tendency to be incredibly hard on ourselves and hard on others, like we have no truck for, you know, people who we appear to be complaining or whinging or so on and so forth, because as society, we've been told, you know, we've all got to be pretending that we're fine, even when we're not. And you know, I think part of the reason that I love what I do and I'm so passionate about it, is because I I am a neurodivergent human being. I also was a very busy, brained, full throttle workaholic, as well as being someone who drunk to relax, someone who drunk to have fun, someone who drunk to commiserate. It too. And I think the fact that I've actually been there and done it myself really helps me understand and really helps with my empathy, but it also, I think, allows me to focus on the things I find really interesting. So busy brains, neuro divergence, masking over, functioning, this kind of like constant busyness, constant on the go not being able to start for a second, like constantly having these to do lists that we have to get done, this kind of perfectionism and everything that we're creating. Or as equally, you know, this sort of real dread of being alone, this real dread of, you know, the feeling of loneliness, or being alone with our thoughts, and I have a really good understanding of that. Now, none of those things, these are the reasons why we're doing right, but none of those things have anything to do with alcohol. Alcohol is the solution to the problem. It is not the problem. The problem that we have is that we are disconnected from self the problem that we have is that we have negative self belief,
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like, I'm not good enough, I'm unacceptable, I'm
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what's mine? Mine's I don't matter. You know, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not worthy, whatever it might be. And these things color the lens through which we see the world, and then when we're experiencing them, and often, we'll have got those, those ideas from childhood. So in childhood, we'll believe, you know, we'll someone will tell us to suck it up, back a cup, or not to be so sensitive, or just to get over it, or get what you get, and don't get upset. And then we start to internalize shame for having needs. And so we find it really difficult to identify our needs as a society. It's not welcomed either. And so we learn to drink in order to take away the pain of that, the pain of being with the bad feelings, the sad thoughts that we have about ourselves. And that's not to make them good or bad, but the way that our brains work. And so, of course, we drink. And so, you know, just sharing again that really my, my methodology, isn't about alcohol, it's it's actually the alcohol like our parts, like our judgment, like our busy brains, these parts are all trying to help us. They're trying to protect us. They're just not doing it in a resourceful way. So I wanted to talk to you as well about this kind of concept of take it or leave it right, and alcohol becoming a non issue because so much of the kind of alcohol free industry, and I wouldn't say the alcohol free, it's probably more like the names would be sobriety, or the names would be, you know, the kind of AA, and all the rest of it. And again, there's, you know, there's nothing wrong with those things in and of themselves, but they're very much based on fear, fear of alcohol. You can never have it. If we have it, we're going to end up, you know, if we, if we have it, we're going to end up back in this dreadful situation. And for me, this idea that I couldn't have something, this idea that, you know, there were people who could and people who couldn't, and those who couldn't were kind of less than that, doesn't sit right for me. I would never have been able to get into a lifestyle whereby I was sort of like hierarchically disadvantaged, mainly because of my my social justice part. I really I'm a rebel, and I do not like being told that I can't have something. So for me, it's very much my thing is that, you know, I want to be able to have everything that I want. I just don't want to want something that's going to hurt me and want something that I don't want to have. So for me, again, it's never about abstinence. Is never the goal. The goal is awareness. And it's never about not being allowed anything. It's about choosing from a point where your your subconscious brain and your conscious brain are aligned so they're not fighting each other anymore, so you haven't got jackal and height on your shoulder anymore. And that's what what I teach. So I'll give an example. So I recently had some friends around, and they bought some oysters, and they also bought some botanical G and then they were like, I don't know if you're going to want to have this, but we've been trying this on our oysters, and it's really delicious instead of lemon. And I was like, No, of course, I'll try it. No worries. I'll have one with lemon and one with the gin. And I tasted I preferred the lemon. I was like, I'll have the lemon now. Thanks. And the reason I say that is because the type of not drinking I wanted to have, or the choosing, whatever you want to call it, was one where I wasn't scared of alcohol. I wasn't like, oh my god, I'm gonna have it. Like, it's such a wonderful thing. If I got hold of it, I'd just be absolutely off. Because for me, that's no that's not really a way of living for me. You know, everyone's different, and, you know, let that be. But if you're interested in working in this way with me, and you're, you know, this is kind of where I'm coming from. So because it really is a non issue for me, I don't want it. I you know, I can have it anytime I want, and I can taste it, I can smell it, I can. Have it in my food. If somebody poured me a drink and they put the wrong thing in it and it was a hard alcohol in it, it wouldn't be an issue, be a crisis. It's just a non issue. And that, to me, is where I wanted to be with alcohol, because I know that if somebody had said to me, Oh, you're going to stop drinking, I would never have joined the 30 day program in the first place, because, again, we're afraid of these things, because we don't want to be different, do we? We want to be the same as everyone else. So what I wanted to do was create for us something to have over Christmas and New Year, because I know that Christmas and New Year is such a stressful time we are, and it's, it's kind of like that bit of downtime. And we've, we've, we've had all this stress and all these obligations and everything comes to the head at Christmas, and then Boxing Day, we sort of die. I mean, flop. And then I wanted to create something for the 27th 28th 29th which I'm calling it's like a palette cleanse. It's a three day
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festive reset,
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and it's free,
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and it's really
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just to
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reduce alcohol
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consumption over three days, or stop whatever you want to do, learn some stuff and take a bit of a refresh, reconnect with self and repair some of the damage that we will have done to ourselves in order that we can go into the New Year lighter, brighter, feeling kind of cleansed and lovely. So I'm calling it the three day festive alcohol, reset, repair, reconnect and refresh. So the three days are going to be about three different things. So we've got day one is going to be repair. It's a bit of an exhale, exhale after Christmas, to stop pushing, to sort of start to kind of look after ourselves again, to prioritize ourselves, and then to reconnect day two, so coming back to self, our needs, our energy, and then the refresh step into the new year. Resource, not frantic, not exhausted. You don't need to stop drinking. You don't need to intend everything. I'm doing it live. Or you can watch replays. I'm going to do it so you can have it as a podcast replay. So if you register, you can get a podcast delivered to you every day at the same time. Or you can watch it live, so I'll do a zoom recording, or in the Facebook group as well. So you can have whatever you want. We've got different
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ways to do it. It's free,
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so there's opportunity to be live. It's very much about choice. It's not about compliance. You don't have to stop drinking if you want to take a little break, you can. But it's about awareness and learning and so that we can really step into the new year with a changed relationship with alcohol. And it's really for you, wherever you are, with your with your relationship with alcohol, and it's about learning new things so that we can our behavior changes, moving out of fear and into choice. So along with that, you'll also get some really great tools. So if you're thinking of going to dry January, we'll have some tools to support that, but also just tools to generally support you if you're wanting to reduce your drinking. So we'll have some awareness worksheets. Some awareness worksheets are kind of like a way of working mindfully with drinking, and that can really change things for people. Some people really report that, you know, even without anything else, just doing the mindfulness piece, really changes their relationship with alcohol. I'll offer you a grounding session, my visualization for 2026, so imagining ourselves where we want to be in our relationship with alcohol, and then you'll get a little piece of journaling workbook as well, with two days. Everything's optional, nothing to keep up with no big drivers, just some time to
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spend on your own, reflecting on you.
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So what's different about what I do. If you don't know me very well, I don't. I'm not very different to the willpower approach, no abstinence pressure. You can drink and do this if you want. That's absolutely fine. It's about learning new stuff. You know, we I talk a lot about it's in my work that, you know, we don't have to stop drinking to change our relationship with alcohol, and sometimes we're not ready to take a break yet, and it doesn't mean that doing something like this isn't worthwhile for us. What's my point of difference? So my point of difference is I'm trauma informed. So I trained under gebomato for a year, and I've studied Bessel van der Kol i. And I spend a lot of my time working in the trauma space. And the way I talk about trauma, I always say this, there's big T and little T trauma. Big T might be, you know, kind of your assaults, your your car crashes and so on. And little t can be, you know, sort of our cultural conditioning, the way that, you know, for example, being put to bed and left to cry in your cart, or being told you get what you get, and you don't get upset. You're not allowed to have emotions. You have to be compliant and convenient to adults and so on and so forth. It's very difficult for us to get through our societal society without having some kind of little tea trauma. It's really important that we're we are I'm trauma informed. I'm a counselor and psychotherapist, Registered and Licensed, so I work with I'm also a neurodivergent person, so I work with primarily people with ADHD and autism, but I am very cognizant of a lot of the other neurodivergences. And I'm also a mum of two neurodivergent teens who struggle with school. So this is a safe place, if that's you as well, and people, it's very much a nervous system lead. So for me, there's a reason we drink. Because we drink because there's something doesn't feel good for us, or something we're afraid to be with, or something we don't like. It's discomfort. It's often in our busy brains are so kind of like, mean, full on. We never get a break. We want a break. We want to feel validated. We're lonely, all of these reasons. And I think, you know, this is nervous system things.
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It's very much a boutique program. All my programs are
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quite small, intimate and not flashy, not corporate. That's not my style at all, not perfect. And you know, I'm along in the journey with you. What else? So after these three day reset, I hope that you will feel that you have a quieter mind, that you've got some more tools to be able to work with your brain. There'll be less negotiation, so less jackal and hide, and you'll start to trust yourself again. I think that's one of the really hard pieces when our alcohol love, alcohol use, gets a bit out of whack, is that we lose our trust in ourselves, and that makes us so sad. And you'll feel like alcohol is less loud, it's got less control, less power in your
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in your mental world and physical world. And
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for some people, those three days are enough. For others, it opens the door to deeper support. And you know, I will be, as I said, I'll be running my Great Aussie Alka experiment. I'm running it at half price for the first time ever, and for the first time ever in January, which I'm super excited about. The experiment is a it's not a challenge. It's not about becoming alcohol free. It's a supported experiment. And it's it's absolutely not about abstinence, although abstinence can be a happy side benefit, it's really about awareness and it's about really changing, you know, the all the beliefs that we hold about alcohol. And you know, for me, in my first three days of the alcohol experiment I did back in January 2020, I had this incredible revelation when I was running down the beach I would been reflecting on I've been learning about dopamine. I've been learning about how Dopamine
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is a wanting,
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doing neurotransmitter. Its purpose is to get you to do something again and again and again. And it's because it thinks that thing is useful for it in terms of survival as a human being. And so what it does is it, it often rose tinted glasses. Gives it the gives it gives things the rose tinted glasses effect. So, and I believed, as much as I believe the sky is blue, that I loved the taste of wine. I was a bit of a pompous connoisseur. I was the person who was bought the, you know, really good bottle of wine. I love the pomp and circumstance of it all. And then when I was running and I learning about this stuff, and I was thinking, gosh, that's interesting, isn't it, because I remembered the last time I really, really loved a glass of wine, and it was probably a week prior. So the glasses of wine that I've been drinking up until the start of the experiment, I hadn't really enjoyed them that much, because I really remember this particular pub and this particular glass and who I was with, and I remember that being really good. And then I was thinking, well, before that, when did I? When did I before that? And again, it was like another week. And so what was becoming apparent to me was I didn't love every single glass of wine that I had, although my brain had me saying that I loved wine. I liked some of the glasses of wine I had. Some of them met my expectations or even exceeded them, but the majority actually didn't. The majority were a bit meh. I quite often have to glug them down until I could kind of get through the. His first few glugs, so that I could really, you know, I could see, sink into the kind of more anesthetized experience. And it was really interesting, because I really had held that belief really true. And the really interesting thing about the work that I do with people is it's not an either or. It doesn't have to go from i love the I love the taste of wine to I hate the taste of wine. It's not about that, but the way that we bring the unconscious brain into line with the conscious brain, which is how we stop the internal battle, is is that we're both believing the same thing, and we just open that chink of possibility. And that's what we do in the Apple experiment. So every night, we sit and we go through what everyone's beliefs are, and we kind of open them up, but for me, but realizing that that belief was not 100% true, it kind of was like the whole deck of cards came down to me. So it's like, yeah, well, if this isn't true, then what else isn't true. And the blinkers came off, and suddenly I was open to learn, and I was open to change. And I was open to the idea that not everything that I believed was true, right, and that really changed everything. So I just wanted to talk about that a little bit, because that's the power to me. And the reason why I love this program so much is because that's the power of the Great Aussie Apple experiment. And you know, of course, excuse me. For me, it's always going to be we have 25 people Max, 25 new people to the program, Max at any one time. So it's very small, very intimate. We know each other. I know your name. It's a It's Aussie, New Zealand time zones. We tend to be women in midlife. We tend to be women who identify as gray area drinkers, people who are kind of like, I'm not that bad, but I'm bad enough for me, which was definitely my story, and also, often we have a high proportion of neurodivergent humans, and it's really about people who don't just want to do this. Kind of, like, I'm going to distract myself with exercise. I'm going into battle with the wine, which top 10 Tips, where I'll fix this problem. Then I can move on to the next problem. You know, it's like, it's more about like I want to change this sustainably forever, whether that means that I stopped drinking, or whether that means that I become better at moderating whatever it is. Because what I'm going to do is I'm going to look at the core, the root cause for why I've been drinking in the first place. What's the unmet need? How do I learn to be with myself when I am feeling triggered. You know, how do I cope when I'm with big emotions or emotions, feelings that I've been made I've been taught to believe are, you know, bad and that I shouldn't have them. I should feel ashamed of myself for having them, you know? How do I sit with my loneliness? You know, all those things. But we do it in small group, and it's actually really fun. It sounds, sounds like it's a misery, but it's actually delightful. And we have a good giggle as well. We have tears and we have laughter, and it's just a beautiful experience. And it's really, really different. So again, it's like this whole idea of it's an experiment. You know, you can drink if you want to during the experiment, yeah, of course, it's great if you cannot, but if you can't, if that's too big a commitment, that's not what it's about. You can still learn. And then, when I was working in this naked mind programs, we do the path, and that was a year long program, three months of which would be doing the pause, which is about, you know, learning everything before you take a break. So you can use it for that as well, which is, you know, whatever you want to do. I mean, that's a little bit like what we're doing with three day the three day festive reset will be great for that. So that will be a little bit of a like, pause beforehand, learn new stuff. Then, you know, New Year, go out, have a great New Year's Eve. And then, if you want to carry on, come and join the Great Aussie Alka experiment at the ridiculous half price. That early bird price is only available until the 26th of December, so if you want to get that half price, I would, I would sign up for that now with a link in this podcast. What else? Yes, there's just no pressure, no rush. There's just a few different things that I'm offering. Yeah, so I invite you come to the reset between Christmas and New Year. You can just you. All you have to do is sign up for it. You don't have to come to the live shows. You can listen to it on the podcast. You can so you can listen to an audible when you go for a walk, or you can watch them, or you can watch the replays, whatever you want to do. It's free, it's gentle, it's affordive. There'll be some community there again. You can engage, or you don't have to. It's especially for people with busy brains, neuro divergent folk, people who are, you know, it's we have a mixture of people who attend. And you know, I'd say probably half the people are just wanting to have a break, or they're so bit curious, and they want to just do a bit of investigation. Some of people are wanting to moderate. Some of the people are wanting to stop, or stop for like, a year or six months. And then you've got some people as well who have stopped already, but just really still are missing drinking, and so they want to do that kind of belief work so they can get into that choice. Into that choice, so that it's not it doesn't hold that much energy for them anymore.
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So it's not about fixing
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it's not you don't get to you're not behind. It's about coming home to self. It's about remembering who you are, remembering who you were born to be. So there'll be the link in the show notes to register for the reset. And also, if you want to join the Great Aussie Alka experiment at the special 50% off price. And also, on top of that, for the early bird pricing, you also get like, three webinars of mine, one of which is a menopause and neurodivergence one. So that might be interesting for people. There's another one like successful women drink. Why successful women drink? And I think the other one is how to get off the cycle. And then on top of that, you get this kind of like opportunity to do an hour and a half one to one with me, which is worth 204 me, which is worth $247
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So altogether, these bonuses are, like,
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worth $1,000 and the program itself is worth 3000 with those included as well. And you're going to get it for under $500 so it's really a really good value. And honestly, I would take this opportunity to do that, because first time I've done it at that price in January 1. I've done it in January anyway. I'm repeating myself, but you get those things as free. That's part of the early bird. So if you if you want those things for $500 and the one to one coaching, you also get some one to one coaching, an hour's worth of one to one coaching, with $197 with me at the end. So then you've got a plan for what you want to do next. What your next steps are, you know, where you want to go, and the tools in order to do that, you'll get those will be recorded for you. You'll get the notes from that, and you'll get lots of resources as well. So that's that. And, yeah, I think that's kind of it. So it's not really about giving anything up, for me, this is really about, you know, getting into choice, coming into choice, which was really about getting out of resistance, getting out of willpower. And that's what I teach. That's why it's so different. It's the opposite of a lot of the traditional ways of working. But it's very much nervous system related. And you know, it really isn't about, you know, you don't have to not drink. And I would say, you know, the people who do best, they come to as many of the live calls as you can. There's a live call with me in the alcohol experiment every night. They're at different times. I've put them at different times in the evenings, and then in the early evenings, at the weekends as well, so that everybody gets a chance to come. You don't have to come to all of them, but the more you can come to, the better. And it builds the community. And we really get to know each other, and we get rid of, you know, a lot of the reasons why we drink have got nothing to do with drinking. They're to do with as Gabor Mate would say, that to do with things that, you know, when we get upset about stuff, when we're feeling stressed, when we're feeling anxious, we don't know a different way. And it's about learning how to meet those needs in a resourceful way, no shame, no blame. It's also about kind of really working with some of that inner critic, self judgment part, so we can make that part less,
Unknown Speaker 38:31
less mean,
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understand where it's coming from, build self compassion for ourselves, so that we can move into a life that's about opening and leaning into and being open to, rather than being afraid of constricted, not allowed to have, you know, all that kind of stuff. So it's about creating the conditions that we don't we don't need to drink. We can if we want to. It's not a problem.
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But bit like me with the
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oysters, like, yeah, taste it weird. Who worries? It's no problem.
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All right, my darlings. So that's everything, and the links to the festive reset, three day, festive reset, repair, reconnect, and I can't even remember what the third R is now like, it's repair, reconnect and restore. I don't know that's terrible. Something lovely, refresh, that's it. So we can go into New Year refreshed, and then the Aussie Apple experiment as well, with the early birds offer. All right, my darlings, you have a lovely, lovely, lovely, lovely Christmas. Please get some rest. Please do something nice for you. Make sure you get to have a little bit of a nice cup of tea and a bit of peace and quiet in the morning before everyone gets up. Yeah, bit of a read of your book. Something nice. All right, treasures. You take care. See you soon. Bye. Borgen.
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