#131 Tips For A Successful Dry July Part 8

Top Tip for a Successful Dry July - No. 8

Stop focusing on not drinking and start focusing on what you are using alcohol to endure.

You’ve heard of the nervous system safety responses - fight, flight and freeze. Well, there is a fourth: fawning - or masking.

I always say alcohol is the biggest mask of them all.

Fawning is a nervous system safety response to a world that feels unsafe.

And if you met someone who felt unsafe, how would you treat them?

Would you shout at them? Shame them?

The body and brain very quickly learn that drinking allows us to mask and pretend to be the human that society told us we should be - rather than the human we are.

If you don’t feel safe being yourself socially. If your inner critic makes being with yourself feel unbearable. If drinking is the only way you can give yourself permission to stop and rest. These are all very valid responses - not moral failings.

We think drinking is cool and rebellious. But actually it contains us. Keeps us small. Keeps us safe.

The job here is not to solve any of this. We can’t force safety - we have to actually experience it and many places are unsafe for our nervous system.

Just to notice it - and hold yourself with the same compassion you would give a scared child.

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