Episode 10: Can't Do It Without a Drink? Here's What That's Really About - Dry July, No Drama

Dry July, No Drama: Daily Tips for a Take It or Leave It Relationship With Alcohol

Episode 10: Can't Do It Without a Drink? Here's What That's Really About - Dry July, No Drama

Start noticing the places where you don't just want a drink. You feel like you need one in order to do the thing at all.

• To get yourself to the party when you are already running on empty
• To sit at the dinner table
• To push through when every part of you wants to stop
• To feel confident enough to just show up
• To tolerate a situation - or a person - that costs you something 

If alcohol is what makes those things doable - that is not a drinking problem.

That is a sign that somewhere along the way your needs stopped being allowed to matter. And a lot of us have been doing that for so long we don't even know we have needs anymore.

This is grey area drinking at its most invisible. It is not about the alcohol. It is about everything the alcohol is doing for you that nothing else has been allowed to do.

So the tip here is not to stop drinking. It is to start noticing:

• Where do you have to drink to do something?
• What is that something asking you to suppress?
• What would it mean to let your needs matter in that moment instead?

You matter most. Full stop.

This episode is part of Dry July, No Drama - a daily MidlifeAF podcast mini series with tips for cutting back on alcohol without willpower, labels or forever.

My Awareness Worksheets - perfect for exactly this kind of noticing - and my Grounding Audio, which will help you identify the unmet need underneath the craving before it reaches for a drink. See links below:

FREE TOOLS - four beautiful resources to help you drink less and feel fabulous:

1. 7 Steps to Take Back Control of Alcohol - the exact steps I took when I started out on this journey nearly five years ago.

hoperisingcoaching.com/7-steps

2. Awareness Worksheets - if you do nothing else, working through the answers to these questions will change your relationship with alcohol for the better.

hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in

3. Your North Star Visualisation - stops your brain freaking out about doing something unfamiliar.

hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation

4. Grounding Meditation - you know that feeling when you have a drink and the body goes "aaaaaaaahhhhhhh" and everything seems to relax? What the body really needs is to ground - to come back home to self, and for self to feel lovely. That is what we work on in my live programs. We start every session with a grounding and connect with ourselves to find out what our body really needs when it thinks it wants to drink.

hoperisingcoaching.com/grounding

READY TO GO DEEPER?

Ready to make alcohol a non-issue? Watch my free one-hour masterclass: 5 Surprising Ways Taking a Break from Booze Can Be Effortless and Change Your Life. One hour. Five shifts. Your take it or leave it relationship with alcohol starts here.

WATCH NOW FOR FREE: hoperisingcoaching.com/masterclass

Are you tired of the mental back-and-forth about drinking? I am running a FREE 3-Day Alcohol Reset on 23, 24 and 25 June, 7pm Melb/Syd (replays available). No willpower talk. No abstinence pressure. You can even drink while you do it. A judgement-free space to learn the tools to step into a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol.

REGISTER FREE: hoperisingcoaching.com/3-day-reset

Want a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol? Want to stop all the "will I, won't I" internal conflict around wine? I am running the Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment LIVE from Wednesday 1 July. 30 days. Small group coaching. Only 25 spots. Small, intimate and private. Rewire your brain and nervous system so you no longer have to reach for a glass to quieten your busy brain, calm your overwhelmed soul or socialise when your social battery is spent. Early bird pricing open now - $500 off the full price, plus two 1:1 counselling sessions with me and 3 webinars included (worth +$1,000). We won't run this live again until October.

YOUR NEXT RIGHT MOVE STARTS HERE:

hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment

Change happens in a moment, my friends - the preparation for change takes a little bit of time. Take the time. You will be amazed at the difference it makes.