Episode 12: Get Out of Struggle Speak and Into Choice - Dry July, No Drama

Dry July, No Drama: Daily Tips for a Take It or Leave It Relationship With Alcohol

Episode 12: Get Out of Struggle Speak and Into Choice - Dry July, No Drama

If you think it's going to be hard, it will be. That's cognitive bias. You know that feeling when you wake up in a bad mood and everything goes to sh*t? People do the same thing with taking a break from alcohol - and it makes everything so much harder.

Struggle language keeps you in willpower. Choice language gets you out.

• It's not "I can't drink." It's "I don't want to right now."

• It's not "I'm battling this." It's "I'm choosing to explore what I really need when I reach for a wine."
• It's not stepping into the sludge of trying. It's the clean step of choosing.

Think about the difference between these two experiences:

• When you are lost in something and time disappears - that is flow
• When you are pushing against something with every ounce of energy you have - that is resistance

Flow is connected to presence. Resistance lives in the past or the future.

Here's what most people don't know: a craving or a trigger is actually your body desperately trying to ground itself - to come back to the present moment. Struggle language takes you further away from that. Presence brings you home.

This is exactly why as part of the Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment this year we are running a present moment awareness breathwork practice alongside the program - to support everyone in learning how to live in presence rather than resistance.

This episode is part of Dry July, No Drama - a daily MidlifeAF podcast mini series with tips for cutting back on alcohol without willpower, labels or forever.

My Grounding Audio is your first step out of struggle and into presence - and it will help you identify the unmet need underneath the craving before it reaches for a drink. See links below:

FREE TOOLS - four beautiful resources to help you drink less and feel fabulous:

1. 7 Steps to Take Back Control of Alcohol - the exact steps I took when I started out on this journey nearly five years ago.
   https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/7-steps
2. Awareness Worksheets - if you do nothing else, working through the answers to these questions will change your relationship with alcohol for the better.
   https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in
3. Your North Star Visualisation - stops your brain freaking out about doing something unfamiliar.
   https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation
4. Grounding Meditation - you know that feeling when you have a drink and the body goes "aaaaaaaahhhhhhh" and everything seems to relax? What the body really needs is to ground - to come back home to self, and for self to feel lovely. That is what we work on in my live programs. We start every session with a grounding and connect with ourselves to find out what our body really needs when it thinks it wants to drink.
   https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/grounding

READY TO GO DEEPER?

Ready to make alcohol a non-issue?
Watch my free one-hour masterclass: 5 Surprising Ways Taking a Break from Booze Can Be Effortless and Change Your Life. One hour. Five shifts. Your take it or leave it relationship with alcohol starts here.
WATCH NOW FOR FREE: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/masterclass

Are you tired of the mental back-and-forth about drinking?
I am running a FREE 3-Day Alcohol Reset on 23, 24 and 25 June, 7pm Melb/Syd (replays available). No willpower talk. No abstinence pressure. You can even drink while you do it. A judgement-free space to learn the tools to step into a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol.
REGISTER FREE: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/3-day-reset

Want a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol? Want to stop all the "will I, won't I" internal conflict around wine?
I am running the Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment LIVE from Wednesday 1 July. 30 days. Small group coaching. Only 25 spots. Small, intimate and private. Rewire your brain and nervous system so you no longer have to reach for a glass to quieten your busy brain, calm your overwhelmed soul or socialise when your social battery is spent. Early bird pricing open now - $500 off the full price, plus two 1:1 counselling sessions with me and 3 webinars included (worth +$1,000). We won't run this live again until October.
YOUR NEXT RIGHT MOVE STARTS HERE: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment

Change happens in a moment, my friends - the preparation for change takes a little bit of time. Take the time. You will be amazed at the difference it makes.